This was specifically created to protect the hearts of women who have sex with guys they’ve been seeing for a few weeks, and proceed to get upset when they see him online, when he doesn’t text frequently enough, and when it’s become increasingly clear that he just wanted sex, not a relationship. If he does – if he thinks he deserves to get laid when he hasn’t committed to you – well, I guess he’s not going to get laid. A man isn’t boyfriend-worthy because you feel a real connection with him.
If that describes you, there is absolutely nothing wrong with four weeks of foreplay without intercourse, and if the guy bails, it’s because he really didn’t want a relationship with you to begin with. Any questions about sexclusivity can be addressed here. Don’t leave any daylight between exclusive and boyfriend. Sometimes, when women who are new at “sexclusivity” bring it up to their men, they say something like, “So I just want to make sure you’re not sleeping with anybody else right now.” The guy says, “Nope. A man is boyfriend-worthy if he’s demonstrating that he’s serious about being in a relationship with you.
It’s the kind of thing that will be defined naturally by him calling you every day, spending every weekend with you, introducing you to his friends and family, and so on.
In other words, you should both “know” what you are without a heavy discussion.
Finally, if you DID bring it up, he would probably laugh because he already thought of you as his girlfriend already.
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I am very happy (and he said that he is happy when he is with me) and like him the more I get to know him.
He’s attentive (he texts and chats with me online every day), affectionate, asks me out regularly (we have seen each other multiple times every week since we met), and makes time for me (he has a lot of interests and activities).
What’s the point of talking to other guys when I like this one guy so much? the other guy isn’t necessarily as smitten with you. That’s a guy who is seeing you, seeing others, and keeping his options open.I would like to know that he isn’t sleeping with anyone else and won’t be sleeping with anyone else while we are sleeping together.Should I have the “defining the relationship” conversation with him or should I wait and allow things to evolve more?But, we are technically not exclusive (meaning, we talked prior to sleeping together and said that we were both able to date others, if we wanted).However, we talked more recently and we both said that we aren’t dating anyone else, but we didn’t explicitly say that we are exclusive.
After emailing with a bunch of losers online, she meets a guy whose profile knocks her socks off.